Being an adoptee, I knew nothing of my history…this greatly hindered my own life and damaged my children because I was unable to help them.
I wanted to share with you all a review of my memoir received on Goodreads by another memoirist and seeker of personal healing, Rhonda Rae. Her comments demonstrate the difficulty of dealing with mental health history for adoptees who are stuggling with depression or other disorders. It touches me deeply that my book helps her dig deeper into her own family mysteries and serves as a resource for her writing and healing process. Here is her review…
Rhonda Rae Baker rated it
This is a powerfully researched topic with memoir interlaced for example. Not an easy read, especially if there is body memory that surfaces, which was my case. I learned so much and had to go back and reread sections for greater understanding.I cannot express how important this information is, especially to those with mental illness in their family background. Being an adoptee, I knew nothing of my history…this greatly hindered my own life and damaged my children because I was unable to help them. I was a mess…literally checked out for many years. This realization alone, made Costello’s story extremely difficult to dig through.Now that I’ve had time to ponder what she is really talking about, I feel ready to tackle my own history in greater ways. I’m still researching my birth family and no one is open to speak with me. So many secrets and so many illnesses…totally dysfunctional and carried on within my own family atmosphere.
Very sad that adoptee’s don’t have access to their medical and mental health histories…consequences can be lethal, is an understatement.
I’ve more research and will continue to use this amazing resource to help me find my way. Bottom line, addressing personal depressions and cycles is my first step. One day at a time…I’m very sad that my children have presented with psychological environmental and genetic tendencies. It’s as if they had no hope…but they do have hope now…mom is learning and will continue to reach out to help them.
There is a way…there are answers…there is help!
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